tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post4534090098937866714..comments2024-03-26T02:31:55.784-04:00Comments on Working Girl: Co-Workers vs. FriendsWorking Girl Twohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12214647846250962302noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-36532082438401923662011-02-13T18:34:36.578-05:002011-02-13T18:34:36.578-05:00Yeah I gotta agree with Kirby on this one, it does...Yeah I gotta agree with Kirby on this one, it doesn't make sense that you don't want to get closer simply because you don't know her. <br /><br />That's how you get to know people by having lunch or a coffee with them. What if that were you? How is this girl supposed to make any friends at work if no one gives her a chance?<br /><br />I feel bad for her. Even if you don't want to be her friend, why don't you introduce her around the office. I like your idea of happy hour. <br /><br />Remember what it was like when you made new friends? One of you had to make the first move to go out together. <br /><br />I don't think she's trying to force anything, she's trying to be social. Its hard to make friends after college, so people try to make new friends at work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-46921241619246021462011-01-15T08:47:24.680-05:002011-01-15T08:47:24.680-05:00Thanks for all of the feedback! I like the suggest...Thanks for all of the feedback! I like the suggestions to arrange a afterwork Happy Hour. I don't mind going to lunch on work days at all. It was just a quick from the first lunch to "let's hang out on the weekends." I definitely know what's its like to be the new Working Girl in town though, so maybe next week I will ask if she wants to have lunch. :-)Lawyer Working Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17558394054210881793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-13796160501051698012011-01-14T21:06:57.069-05:002011-01-14T21:06:57.069-05:00When I graduated uni I was working at one of the B...When I graduated uni I was working at one of the Big 4 accounting firms - a lot of grads there start at the same time so there is a big group of people, all aroud the same age, and you inevitably hang out outside of work. Of that group though, only a few became good friends of mine.<br />I left a couple of years ago and my work colleagues are now all much older than me. The one closest to my age is 8 years older, and he is already married with 4 kids. Everyone else is older than him by at least 15 years. I have become friends with the one who is closest to my age (and adore his kids), but it certainly isn't a close friendship.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02726871215313035832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-89063932718914996362011-01-14T14:37:38.187-05:002011-01-14T14:37:38.187-05:00If you feel like she's not someone you can see...If you feel like she's not someone you can see yourself being friends with that's one thing, but to say no to getting to know her because you don't already know her doesn't make sense.<br />It is brave to try and make a new friend. I think the older we get the more forced it has to be because we don't have the same kinds of social situations once did.Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06637397023508885563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-63098999037323376562011-01-14T01:05:50.358-05:002011-01-14T01:05:50.358-05:00I have to say that I am friends with my co-workers...I have to say that I am friends with my co-workers however, we don't socialize outside of work. But, we do know all about each others lives. On a side, it does also depend where "one" is at on the food chain - if your management it makes things different, doesn't it? I agree that things should not be forced. You can ask someone to join you for lunch but, if they decline - "they decline". Forcing someone just is not the way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15164702794354255345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-21728093349121493942011-01-13T19:16:42.189-05:002011-01-13T19:16:42.189-05:00I think having friends at work is great! I couldn&...I think having friends at work is great! I couldn't make it through a day if I didn't have someone to complain/vent/discuss with. <br /><br />I also completely see your point. It is so frustrating when people want to be bestfriend outside of work when you simply don't have the time.... or you don't see being "REAL LIFE" friends with.<br /><br />Such a touchy subject. At the same time, if I move cities, I really hope people are willing to be friends with me that I work with!SurvivingHeelshttp://www.surivivngheels.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-75723191071734039372011-01-13T19:15:42.561-05:002011-01-13T19:15:42.561-05:00I think having friends at work is great! I couldn&...I think having friends at work is great! I couldn't make it through a day if I didn't have someone to complain/vent/discuss with. <br /><br />I also completely see your point. It is so frustrating when people want to be bestfriend outside of work when you simply don't have the time.... or you don't see being "REAL LIFE" friends with.<br /><br />Such a touchy subject. At the same time, if I move cities, I really hope people are willing to be friends with me that I work with!SurvivingHeelshttp://www.surivivngheels.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-51885543250867207922011-01-13T15:26:49.196-05:002011-01-13T15:26:49.196-05:00I like Marie's idea of a happy hour outing for...I like Marie's idea of a happy hour outing for a whole bunch of people from your office. Maybe she's so persistent because nobody else at your workplace has stuck out their neck and overtly made the effort to be friendly to her yet, and she's lonely.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08149426274951453722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-70776218671395016462011-01-13T14:26:02.808-05:002011-01-13T14:26:02.808-05:00If his girl waits for things to happen 'natura...If his girl waits for things to happen 'naturally' she could be faced with having no social life at all for the next 6 months to a year! What an awful prospect.<br /><br />I think is it is brave of her to reach out like this. I think Marie's comment about a group social event is a great idea as you would be helping her to make connections without any personal commitment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-79368118635323404132011-01-13T13:07:12.857-05:002011-01-13T13:07:12.857-05:00I think this is so tricky because as you discovere...I think this is so tricky because as you discovered, you can't keep saying "maybe another weekend" forever... <br /><br />I have hung out with a couple co-workers but only a few times. I really like my co-workers but after spending 40 hrs/wk with them, I prefer to spend my free time with non-work friends.<br /><br />I do feel for the new co-worker, though; it must be tough not to know anybody. Would it be possible to arrange for a happy hour or other group outing with people from work? That way she gets to widen her circle and it also takes the pressure off you as her only potential friend.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09410008039816868860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-5212157174640970532011-01-13T12:59:19.670-05:002011-01-13T12:59:19.670-05:00I get it. I do have one really good friend at wor...I get it. I do have one really good friend at work. But I had been working here AT LEAST a year before we first hung out together outside of work. But now we talk, text, and hang out all the time. I totally agree though-- you can't just jump into it. Although the poor girl is clearly dying for some companionship if she's new in town, so I can understand her persistence too.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18200080391601285593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-40820602173656465312011-01-12T23:26:46.913-05:002011-01-12T23:26:46.913-05:00The people I work with are my students, and I'...The people I work with are my students, and I'm not friends with any of them. Actually, a group of my students once invited me to go out drinking with them, but I said no because I didn't think it'd be a good idea. I figure it's best to keep it professional. And I don't hang out with most of the other instructors since we don't really spend much time together. <br />As far as your coworker goes, your reasons for deciding whether or not to be friends with someone sound perfectly valid. She's probably just lonely, but you shouldn't feel obligated to be her friend just because of that. It's like you said; friendships have to form naturally, because otherwise you'll just end up dreading the time you spend with each other.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-81976623028953525052011-01-12T23:18:53.461-05:002011-01-12T23:18:53.461-05:00I wish i had friends at work, they are all older! ...I wish i had friends at work, they are all older! I'm 24 and the youngest in the officeJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00103197130284239823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791125355431273627.post-70979059917151608042011-01-12T21:42:58.582-05:002011-01-12T21:42:58.582-05:00in my experience the more friends you have at work...in my experience the more friends you have at work the better. I still have friends that I stay in contact with from all my past jobs. it helps your teamwork so much if you have a great rapport with someone and that often has to be built outside the office.<br /><br />But I don't think you can force it if you don't click. there are just some people you won't like.Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843610173035306667noreply@blogger.com